Resources for Ministering to Children of Divorce

Wayne Stocks —  In Resources November 7, 2012 — 2 Comments

Later this week, I will be in Mechanicsburg, PA presenting five workshops at the Engage Conference on ministering to children of divorce.  If you are anywhere in the area, I would encourage you to attend.  The price is very affordable, and the content will be top notched.  As part of that effort, I have compiled a listing of resources to make available to those who attend my workshop.  I am making that resource available to you today before the conference.  The following represent the “best of the best” when it comes to resources on children of divorce.  A pdf version of the handout is also available by clicking on the pdf link below.

I. Websites

A. Ministering to Children of Divorce

  1. Divorce Ministry 4 Kids (http://DivorceMinistry4Kids.com)
  2. Association of Marriage & Family Ministry (http://www.amfmonline.com/)

B. Single Parents

  1. A Father’s Walk (http://www.afatherswalk.org/afatherswalk.html)
  2. Center for Single Parent Family Ministry (http://www.spfm.com/)
  3. pdf to share leftHlp4: Healthy Loving Partnerships for Our Kids (http://hlp4.com/)
  4. The Life of a Single Mom (http://jennifermaggio.blogspot.com/)
  5. SMORE for Women (http://smoreforwomenblog.org/)

C. Programs / Curriculums

  1. Divorce Care 4 Kids (http://DC4K.org)
  2. The Big D (http://sonsetpointministries.com/thebigdinfo/)
  3. Chained No More (http://robynbministries.com/chainednomore)
  4. Divorce Care (http://www.divorcecare.org/)
  5. Hope & Help for the Single Mom (http://www.hope4singlemoms.com/)
  6. Single & Parenting (http://singleandparenting.org/)

D. Links to Additional Resources

  1. Divorce Ministry 4 Kids Resource Page (http://divorceministry4kids.com/resources-home/)

E. Statistics

  1. Between Two Worlds (http://www.betweentwoworlds.org/)
  2. Divorce Statistics and Studies (http://familylaw.typepad.com/stats/)
  3. Mapping America Project from the Marriage and Religion Research Institute (http://marri.us/publications/mapping-america)

F. Child Abuse & Neglect

  1. Child Welfare Information Gateway (http://www.childwelfare.gov/)
  2. Fourth National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect: Report to Congress. (http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/opre/abuse_neglect/natl_incid/nis4_report_congress_full_pdf_jan2010.pdf

II. Books

A. About Children of Divorce

  1. Flesberg, Evon O. The Switching Hour: Kids of Divorce Say Good-bye Again. Nashville, TN: Abingdon Press, 2008.
  2. Hart, Archibald D. Helping Children Survive Divorce. Dallas: Word Pub., 1996.
  3. Marquardt, Elizabeth. Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce. New York: Crown Publishers, 2005.
  4. Root, Andrew. Children of Divorce, The: The Loss of Family as the Loss of Being. Grand Rapids, Mich.: Baker Academic, 2010.
  5. Wallerstein, Judith S., and Joan B. Kelly. Surviving The Breakup: How Children And Parents Cope With Divorce. New York: Basic Books, 1980.
  6. Wallerstein, Judith S., and Sandra Blakeslee. Second Chances: Men, Women and Children a Decade After Divorce. New York: Ticknor & Fields, 1989.
  7. Wallerstein, Judith S., Julia Lewis, and Sandra Blakeslee. The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25 Year Landmark Study. New York: Hyperion, 2000.
  8. Wallerstein, Judith S., and Sandra Blakeslee. What About the Kids?: Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce. New York: Hyperion, 2003.

B. For Adult Children of Divorce

  1. Abbas, Jen. Generation ex: adult children of divorce and the healing of our pain. Colorado Springs: WaterBrook Press, 2004.
  2. Staal, Stephanie. The love they lost: living with the legacy of our parents’ divorce. New York: Delacorte Press, 2000.

C. For Kids

  1. Brown, Laurene Krasny, and Marc Tolon Brown. Dinosaurs divorce: a guide for changing families. Boston: Atlantic Monthly Press, 1986.
  2. Ekster, Carol Gordon, and Sue RamaÌ. Where am I sleeping tonight: a story of divorce. Weaverville, CA: Boulden Pub., 2008.
  3. Levins, Sandra, and Bryan Langdo. Was it the chocolate pudding?: a story for little kids about divorce. Washington, D.C.: Magination Press, 2005.

III. Articles

A. Effects of Divorce on Kids

  1. Fagan, Patrick F., and Aaron Churchill. “The Effects of Divorce on Children,” January 11, 2012. (http://www.marri.us/effects-divorce-children).
  2. Fagan, Patrick F., Anne Dougherty, and Miriam McElvain. “162 Reasons to Marry,” February 8, 2012. (http://marri.us/get.cfm?i=RS12A03).
  3. Fagan, Ph.D., Patrick, and Rector, Robert. “The Effects of Divorce on America.” The Heritage Foundation, June 5, 2000. (http://www.heritage.org/Research/Reports/2000/06/The-Effects-of-Divorce-on-America).
  4. O’Neill, Rebecca. “Experiments in Living: The Fatherless Family.” Civitas – The Institute for the Study of Civil Society (September 2002). (http://www.civitas.org.uk/pdf/Experiments.pdf).
  5. Root, Andrew. “Why Divorce Calls Children’s Existence into Question”, July 20, 2012. (http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2012/july-august/why-divorce-calls-childrens-existence-into-question.html?start=1).

B. History of Divorce and the Church

  1. Smith, Mark A. “Religion, Divorce, and the Missing Culture War in America.” Political Science Quarterly 125, no. 1 (Spring 2010). (http://www.psqonline.org/99_article.php3?byear=2010&bmonth=spring&a=03free).
  2. Wilcox, W. Bradford. “The Evolution of Divorce.” National Affairs, no. 1 (Fall 2009). (http://nationalaffairs.com/publications/detail/the-evolution-of-divorce).

C. For Kids

  1. “A Kids Guide to Divorce.” KidsHealth, n.d. (http://kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/home_family/divorce.html).

D. Free E-Book: Dealing with the Effects of Divorce on Kids

  1. Stocks, Wayne. “Dealing With the Effects of Divorce on Kids: A Parent and Children’s Worker Guide.” Divorce Ministry 4 Kids, October 31, 2012. (http://divorceministry4kids.com/2012/dealing-with-the-effects-of-divorce-on-kids/)

E. General Information on Children and Divorce

  1. “The Decline of Marriage And Rise of New Families.” Pew Research Center, November 18, 2010. (http://pewsocialtrends.org/2010/11/18/the-decline-of-marriage-and-rise-of-new-families/).
  2. Jefferson, David J. “The Divorce Generation Grows Up.” Newsweek, April 12, 2008. (http://www.newsweek.com/2008/04/12/the-divorce-generation-grows-up.html).
  3. Leon, Kim, and Kelly Cole. “Helping Children Understand Divorce | University of Missouri Extension.” University of Missouri Extension, March 2004. (http://extension.missouri.edu/publications/DisplayPub.aspx?P=GH6600).
  4. Marquardt, Elizabeth. “Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce.” Christian Century, February 21, 2001. (http://betweentwoworlds.org/comments/?page_id=52).
  5. Tennat, Agnieszka. “Lives of Quiet Turbulence: Elizabeth Marquardt on What Happens in the Souls of Children of Divorce.” Christianity Today, March 2006. (http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2006/march/36.41.html).
  6. Thomas, Susan Gregory. “The Divorce Generation.” Wall Street Journal (WSJ.com), July 9, 2011. (http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702303544604576430341393583056.html?KEYWORDS=divorce).

F. Ministry to Children of Divorce

  1. “Helping Children Heal After Divorce – Focus on the Family.” Focus on the Family, n.d. (http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/single_parents/helping-children-heal-after-divorce.aspx).
  2. “The Impact of Divorce Upon Children – A Thesis Study in Grief, Trauma, and Stress Children Face When Parents Divorce.” Order In the Quart!, September 5, 2011. (http://orderinthequart.wordpress.com/2011/09/05/the-impact-of-divorce-upon-children-a-thesis-study-in-grief-trauma-and-stress-children-face-when-parents-divorce/).
  3. “Understanding and Helping Children of Divorce: An Interview with Dr. Archibald Hart.” Growthtrac, n.d. (http://www.growthtrac.com/artman/publish/understanding-and-helping-children-of-divorce-190.php).
  4. Bowman, Beth. “Ministering to Children of Divorce.” Lifeway, n.d. (http://www.lifeway.com/article/?id=166549&rss=2007115).
  5. Dykes, Brian. “Ministering to Children of Divorce.” Children’s Ministry, n.d. (http://www.childrensministry.com/articles/ministering-to-children-of-divorce).
  6. Einstein, Tori. “Ministering to Kids in Divorce.” CentriKid Camps, July 14, 2010. (http://www.centrikidblog.com/blog/ministering-to-kids-in-divorce-a-guest-blog-by-tori-einstein.html).
  7. Maranville, Cecil. “Children of Divorce Aren’t Doomed to Failure.” Virtual Christian Magazine, n.d. (http://www.ucg.org/marriage-and-family/children-divorce-arent-doomed-failure/).
  8. Marquardt, Elizabeth. “Ministering to Children of Divorce Through Their Lives.” Circuit Rider, June 2002. (http://www.americanvalues.org/html/3_ministering_to_cod.html).
  9. Niles, Lori Haynes. “A House Divided.” Children’s Ministry, n.d. (http://www.childrensministry.com/articles/a-house-divided).
  10. Root, Andrew. “Young People Divorce and Youth Ministry: Leveraging The Ecclesial Community to Create Ontological Security.” Immerse, October 2011. (http://andrewroot.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/Young-People-Divorce-And-Youth-Ministry.pdf)
  11. Smith, Krista. “TEENS – The Forgotten Generation in Single Parent Families.” Association of Marriage & Family Ministries, November 25, 2009. (http://www.amfmonline.com/articles/templates/templateamfm.asp?articleid=355&zoneid=7).
  12. Spoor, Jill. “Ministering to Children of Divorce”, 2000. (http://www.tiu.edu/files/college/christianministries/spoor00.pdf).
  13. Sprague, Gary. “Ministering To Single-Parent Kids.” Center for Single Parent Family Ministry, n.d. (http://www.spfm.com/Building_Blocks-Jan_16_03.pdf).
  14. Sprague, Gary. Help For The Modern-Day Orphan: Having An Effective Ministry With Children of Divorce. Kids Hope, Inc., n.d. (http://www.spfm.org/Help_for_the_Modern-Day_Orphan.pdf).

G. Spiritual Impacts of Divorce

  1. Lawton, Leora E., and Bures, Regina. “Parental Divorce and the ‘Switching’ of Religious Identity.” Journal for the Scientific Study of Religion 40, no. 1 (March 2001): 99–111. (http://www.psychology.hku.hk/ftbcstudies/church/images/docs/Lawton_Bures_2001.pdf)
  2. Marquardt, Elizabeth. “Children of Divorce: Stories of Exile.” Christian Century, February 21, 2001. (http://www.americanvalues.org/html/3_stories_of_exile.html).
  3. Marquardt, Elizabeth. “The Spirituality of Children of Divorce.” Huffington Post Divorce, December 22, 2010. (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elizabeth-marquardt/the-spirituality-of-child_b_798400.html).
  4. Tushnet, Eve. “Kids, Divorce and Faith.” USA Today, June 11, 2006. (http://www.usatoday.com/news/opinion/editorials/2006-06-11-faith-edit_x.htm).
  5. Zhai, Jiexia Elisa, Christopher G. Ellison, Norval D. Glenn, and Elizabeth Marquardt. “Parental Divorce and Religious Involvement Among Young Adults.” Sociology of Religion 68, no. 2 (2007): 125–144 (www.baylorisr.org/wp-content/uploads/zhai_sor.pdf).
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Wayne-

Great list! Very comprehensive and helpful.

Wayne Stocks says:

Thanks Steve. My big struggle was not making it a lot longer, but since I had to print 100 of them for the conference I ended up culling the list quite a bit. I’ve got an electronic research library of something like 1,000 articles and studies related to children of divorce (and it grows every day). It was daunting to go through and pick the best of the best. I’m sure I missed some!